Nigerian-born, Europe-based musician Charles Onyeabor has stirred serious conversations online after sharing a no-holds-barred message on social media, calling out fake friends and setting a new standard for how he intends to engage with people going forward.
In the now viral post, the son of the late Afro-funk legend made it clear that he’s done with one-sided relationships, making it known that loyalty and respect are non-negotiable for him.
Addressing his “friends,” Charles stated that he’s made some adjustments in his life, particularly around how he handles friendship.
According to him, he’s old-fashioned, loyal to a fault, but feels many people today treat friendships like business transactions.
“No be only you sabi dey busy,” he wrote, venting about people who ignore calls and messages without courtesy. His new rule? If he calls you twice and doesn’t hear back within 24 hours, your number gets deleted. No questions asked.
See his full post below….
Dear Friends,
This post is for you. I’ve made some adjustments in my life which I think you should know. I am very old-fashioned when it comes to friendships which means that when I’m your friend, I’m very loyal but most of you prefer the new definition of friendship which is transactional.
Henceforth,
If I call you twice and you don’t return the call or even text me after 24 hours, I will simply delete your number. No be only you sabi Dey busy. Everyone is busy.
If you don’t support my music, business, or anything that has to do with me while I’ve always been supportive towards yours, I’m stopping from this moment. No be only you Dey smart.
If you’ve never reached out after a very long time and all of a sudden you contact me asking me for money or any form of assistance, you will be automatically blocked unless I’m in a good mood.
It’s a TIT for TAT Season
Now a reminder for every other person reading this,
After you’ve tried to reach out to a friend who doesn’t pick your calls or reply your messages and you somehow come across them face to face and they say, “I’VE BEEN BUSY,” that’s another way to say, “YOU ARE NOT THAT IMPORTANT.” Avoid that person ASAP.
It’s even more dangerous when you see them face to face and they introduce you to other people around as if you are best of friends. Using words like, “This is my guy, My Gee, My Person, Onyem.” That’s a high level of fakery…RUN
Now an important reminder to my so-called friends;
That you know a big Artist doesn’t make you the big Artist. That you know Obi Cubana doesn’t make you Obi Cubana. Since some of you enjoy being identified only with famous people, don’t forget that the person you’re ignoring today might be the next Obi Cubana or big Artist or even bigger. And when the person starts ignoring you like you did, you will make people believe the person is proud without letting them know how it all started. This is actually the story of so many celebrities who tend to ignore some people. By the way, instead of being a follower of big celebrities or famous rich people, why don’t you become the big shots too instead of living in an illusion.
